Dating
Ask someone out, give personal compliments, flirt with humor and have the “what are we” talk. Practice replies written for dating a woman or a man.
Get comfortable talking to people. Connsmitten is an app for building social confidence through short lessons and practice conversations, with feedback from your coach.
Lessons
- Ask someone out with a plan and a day
Ask them out in one sentence, with a plan and a day, then let them answer.
Vorauer, Cameron, Holmes and Pearce, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2003 - Give a personal compliment from something they said
Say what you like about them, from something they said.
Eastwick, Finkel, Mochon and Ariely, Psychological Science, 2007 - Flirt with humor, then say one thing you mean
Joke about what’s around you, never the person, then say one line you mean.
Hall, Carter, Cody and Albright, Communication Quarterly, 2010 - Have the “what are we” talk by saying what you want
Say what you want plainly, ask what they want, and don’t take it back.
Birnbaum et al., Computers in Human Behavior, 2018
How to talk to people
Build confidence for your next conversation. Take a two-minute lesson, then have your first practice conversation with Dan.
Listen to Dan open the conversation
Hey! How was your weekend?
Dan